You have been in this relationship for quite some time now and you have really enjoyed it. You think that you might even love each other. Out of the blue your petty little disagreement has turned into a full-blown argument. You have both said things that you did not mean, that you wished that you could take back. However, you feel that what is done is done and you are ready to throw in the towel.
Stop right there! Communication is the key to all relationships. Why break up when you can make up instead? Breaking up is not the key to your solution. The key to your solution is learning to effectively communicate in the first place to avoid an unnecessary break up. Breaking up should not be a quick option when you are not in agreement with each other. Breaking up an almost ideal relationship is a mistake.
All couples disagree from time to time. After all, not one of us is perfect. Do your thoughts turn to breaking up as soon as this happens? We have been trained to expect instant gratification in this world. We have been trained to quit when things get tough. We are spoiled people. All relationships require work and a lot of give and take. Instead of contemplating a break up when you disagree turn your thoughts to a solution. How can you solve this problem without breaking up? If the constant threat of breaking up is hanging over your heads every time things do not work out perfectly then your relationship is headed for trouble. There is negativity even in the words breaking up. Do not allow these words to become part of your vocabulary in your relationship. Instead of focusing on breaking up, focus your thoughts on making up.
Do you remember the song, “Breaking Up Is Hard To Do?” Breaking up is not hard to do at all. It involves just a few words and some angry tempers. What is hard is what comes after the breaking up. Regrets for the most part. Do not let it go that far. When you are angry or upset with each other allow for a cooling down period. When you have both accomplished this then agree to sit down and talk rationally. Allow no stabbing comments or harsh words. Have this conversation as two adult human beings who have enjoyed their relationship thus far and lean toward the idea of remaining a couple in love. Make a rule that breaking up is out of the question, but that working through your problem is the key topic.
